However, he was also a poor listener. Even after discounting for the fact that his colleagues, intimidated by his quick mind and creativity, did not really expect him to listen to them all the time!
And like the same person that we usually are in and out of office, his wife and kids also confirmed he often did not hear a word of what they said.
But for Harry this was almost his key to success! He convinced himself that by shielding himself from the stupid ideas of his co-workers, he was actually preventing his fertile brain from getting polluted. His other defensiveness was over-correction: by listening too much and speaking less, his creative ideas could ultimately dry up.
Marshal as his coach then had to explain the difference between correlation and causality, that Harry just happened to be both successful (because of his sheer talent) and a poor listener but not one because of the other. In fact, Harry would probably not go any higher in the corporate world if he did not correct his listening.
Marshal continues to offers 21 similar potential flaws.
Winning Too Much becomes toxic when we start wasting time and energy on issues which are trivial and not worth pursuing and could even spoil higher objectives like important relationships (think the constant bickering with our spouses to come out on top).
Or the Habit of Adding Too Much Value which probably improves an idea by 10% but reduces commitment by half because the sense of ownership in others is gone.
Then there is the toxic habit of Making Destructive Comments to the point that it becomes a problem with our colleagues. We think we are being smart or witty but everyone else is devastated. Or Starting with No, But, However. Secretly negating the ideas of others and saying “I am right, you are wrong”.
The gist explained perfectly, Very insightful.